The Myth Behind Resistance

There’s a kind of resistance that looks like avoidance.
You’ve got the calendar open, the task written down, the time set aside–and still, it doesn’t happen.
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Cue the spiral:
What’s wrong with me? Why can’t I just do this? Maybe I’m sabotaging myself. Maybe I’m not cut out for this.

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This is the moment so many of us misread. We think we’re failing. But what if it’s not that at all?

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What if resistance isn’t a wall, but a whisper?

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In my work (and in my own life)I’ve come to understand resistance as a kind of communication.
It’s the body, the nervous system, the subconscious, or the soul trying to tell us something.
Trying to say: Wait. Not yet. Not like this.

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And yes…sometimes it’s fear, grief, or an intuitive no.

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And sometimes, it’s the edges of change pressing in before we’re ready to name what’s changing.

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My friend, Mary, came up with a card pull question I still return to again and again:

What is the nature of my resistance?

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It’s simple. It’s brilliant. And it cuts through the noise.
Because the truth is: resistance doesn’t always mean stop.
It can mean look here.

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But if we don’t realize it’s communicating with us or we meet it with judgment, we may miss the message entirely.

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But when we meet it with curiosity?
It becomes a map. It points to a before-and-after moment. It helps us name what’s shifting, what’s asking to emerge, what’s being asked of us.

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We don’t need to push through resistance.
We don’t need to shame ourselves into movement.
We just need to get curious about what’s happening underneath.

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Next time you hit the wall, pause. Take a breath. Pull a card.
And ask:

What is the nature of my resistance?

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You might be surprised at what part of you is afraid and what part of you is waking up.

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